Not all fathers are born when they lay their eyes on their child for the first time while some fathers never answer the calling. Jacade Rausche is a man that demonstrates that fatherhood is a choice, an action and a labor of love that is never too late to embrace.
“Before I wasn’t a father, I was a sperm donor,” Rausche said. “I got my ex-wife pregnant and I pretty much stepped out. If I had money I’d go and drop it off to her, see my kids for ten minutes and then go get a fix. I wasn’t a dad.”
After a life of selling drugs that began in the eighth grade – Rausche was sentenced to two years in prison for burglary. He said he asked to go to prison because he knew he wouldn’t be able to make any changes in county jail. Just two days into serving his sentence, a guard gave him a message that changed him forever.
“I get wakened up by a guard. They’re like, ‘You need to call this number,'” Rausche said. “Immediately I knew something was wrong. My grandpa, who raised me till I was five and he had hours [left] to live. And, I was not able to be there for him. That was the turning point. I couldn’t be there for his funeral. I could do it for myself, I couldn’t do for my kids. It took me losing one of the most important people in my life to turn my life around.”
That loss led him on a path that gave him the determination to change himself so deeply it humbled him.
“In prison I let every single one of my enemies go, I let every emotion I had go,” Rausche said. “I had to let go of every single thing I had and start completely new.”
He was released a year ago after serving his time in the Utah State Prison and was on a mission to be the father his two children, Marlee seven and Jayce five, needed. So, he went looking for a job his first day out of prison.
“I’m very determined,” Rausche said. “I just landed an awesome job at S&S Worldwide. I showed up there for like, three days in a row until she’s like, ‘Ok, let’s make this work.’ But I went out there, I threw all my cards on the table. I said, ‘Look, I’m a recovering drug addict, I’ve almost got three years clean, just got out of prison last year. There’s nothing else you can find out about me now. Like, lets just move forward and be positive.’”
Today Rausche is engaged to his childhood friend, Jessica Hansen. She is a widow with two boys of her own and together they are planning their families future.
“Now I take it day by day, hour by hour, minute by minute and I’m going to make the best of that minute, that hour, that second, whatever it is,” Rausche said. “Because, I know what it’s like to get everything taken from you and put in a cell with nothing at all.”
Rausche said he’s closer to his own father now and is determined to keep his promise to his grandfather.
“I mean, I get to see these kids grow up and see what they’re going to become,” Rausche said. “I get to have a choice in that sort of like, in the direction that they go. I can’t pin-point A to B but, I can sort of show them the ropes. If they want to be an engineer, I don’t know anything about engineering but, I’ll sure Google it.”
He said he’s excited to be his children’s father and and creating his future with Jessica.
“Providing for my family, that’s what I live for ” Rausche said. “I’m here to wake up and see her in the morning and here to get off work and see the boys and see all the kids and, I don’t know, build a house one day. A white picket fenced life.”
Rausche said he now has four children and a wonderful fiancée to celebrate with on Father’s Day. His very first since making the choice to answer the call.